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29 May A day in the life of this motherAlleycat put a challenge out there to list what a mom does from the moment our eyes open until we finally get to close them again. So here is my average day.
6:00 am – on most days, I drag my butt out of bed to run on my treadmill. I can’t run outside since my husband leaves before me and its illegal to leave your young children home alone. 6:45 am – jump in the shower and fix myself up for work. 7:15 am – start to wake up Ella. As you will see later in this, her clothes are always set out and ready, every minute is precious in the morning. 7:30 – wake up Owen, which is chore in itself. He is a sleeper like me. On weekends, he sleeps until 10am so 7:30 is way to early for this poor little boy. 7:45 am – get the kids to sit and eat some breakfast, do Ella’s hair, pack lunches, snacks and try to pull something out for dinner if I remember, which is about 50% of the time. Throw a load of laundry in if I remember as well. With a daughter that changes 3 or 4 times a day, I can do a load everyday! 8:10 am – leave the house and pack everyone and everything in the car, drop Ella off at her cousins where she catches the school bus, drop Owen off at daycare. Almost always, leave feeling guilty for leaving him there when I could financially stay home and be with him everyday. 8:45 am – arrive at work, sit and have a coffee and realize I need to be here for my sanity. 12:00 pm – leave on my lunch to go and pick Ella up at school and drop her off at daycare. Leave again feeling guilty for the same reason as above. 12:40 pm – get back to work and eat my lunch, usually a salad or a simple sandwich while I work. 5:00 pm – leave work, go get the kids and drive home. This is when my second job starts – the fun and exhausting one! 5:40 pm – start to fix dinner while the kids run around telling me that they are hungry, bored, want to go outside and play, want to eat etc…While supper is cooking, I try to throw a load a laundry in if I hadn’t done it in the morning, if I did, then I switch to dryer. 6:30 pm - sit and have a family meal and try to talk about all of our days. 7:00 pm – clean dishes and sink, get snacks and lunches ready for the next day. 7:30 pm – play outside or inside with the kids for about 30 minutes or so. 8:00 pm – bathtime, storytime and bedtime. This can take up to 45 minutes. 8:45 pm – sort out laundry, fold, put in separate piles to put away in kids rooms the next day. Pick out clothes for both kids. Pack Owen’s bag with essentials. Look threw Ella’s backpack to see if teacher sent anything home for me to read, fill out or pay for. I also pick one room of the house everyday to clean. I cannot do it all at once so I have a method of one room a day and the rest of Saturday, it works out very well. So we’ll say that today, I cleaned my bathroom. 9:30pm – pay some bills via internet – I love this, so much easier for me. Read some blogs if time permits. 10:00 pm – Try to talk to hubby while I pick up stray toys, clothes, sippy cups. Straighten up kitchen and figure out what I will wear in the morning. Saves so much wasted time just standing in front of my closet. 11:00 pm – change for bed, watch the news, maybe a little letterman, talk to hubby, maybe have some sex if we aren’t both exhausted. Decide if I will exercise in the morning and set alarm clock accordingly.
That’s it folks, I am tired just reading it. I also forgot that 2 days a week, Ella has soccer practice and a game. Saturday mornings, she has dancing and starting in 2 weeks, 2 days a week, we have private swimming lessons. So how many nights does that leave for just me – negative 4!! Isn’t being a mom the greatest job in the world. I wouldn’t trade a minute of it but I would like just 5 extra hours a day. 11 May Mother's day wishes for my kidsI haven’t blogged for so long that it is kind of difficult to get back into to it but I want to try. My story is told and now there is just me. You have all read about some of the highest and lowest point of my life. I have shared with you things that I have never shared with anyone else. I have told you all of the most horrid things that I have done, the lies I told, the deception I lived. All to be with a man whom I actually ended up with for a while and pushed out of my life. So once again, there is just me. I have been reading all of you blogs on a daily basis and still have nothing to share of my own. My children have been on my mind lately, not that they aren’t on my mind everyday but lately I have been thinking about what kind of adults they will be. For my Ella, I want all the things that my mother never told me were important. I was always told that the most important thing for a woman was to find a husband and that was that. I want her to be her very best. I want her to strive to achieve every goal that she sets out for herself. I want her to travel and experience life to the fullest. I do want her to feel love, I want her to find that undeniable love that becomes a part of her without consuming her the way it did me. I want her to be true to herself and her needs and wants. I want to protect her from ever feeling the pain of heartbreak. I want to protect her physical being as well, I worry so much that something terrible will befall her and that I couldn’t live if that happened. At times, I wish I could put her in a bubble and just protect her and at other times, I can’t wait to see her fly and thrive and become the woman that I always wanted to be. I want her to know she is beautiful, inside and out and be comfortable with who she is and the skin she lives in. I want her to have a husband who adores her and would do anything for her. I want her to have children of her own because I know now, even at her tender age, that she will make an amazing mother. She has that instinct. I don’t want her to make any of the mistakes I have made but I do want her to know that if she does, she is still loved. I pray for her happiness everyday. For my baby Owen. I want him to be strong, successful, yet respectful and courteous. I want him to be the kind of man that his father is and then so much more. I don’t want him to ever settle for a woman who hasn’t made him her number one love. I want him to know he can achieve anything he wants to, as long as he sets his mind to it. I want him to be one of the men who still hold the door open for a lady, yet stands his ground. I want to protect him to from all the evil that could befall him. I know I will hate any girl who breaks her heart or causes him any kind of pain. I want him to always be a momma’s boy but to stand on his own two feet. I want him to be able to provide for the family that I hope he has someday. I don’t want him to be one of the jerky tennage boys who say terrible things to girls. I want him to love and to be loved in return.
I wish so much for both of my babies. Right now, I just wish they would stop running through my house screaming at eachother. I hope they have a special bond since neither has a sibling of the same sex. I hope he will protect her from all the creeps who come her way and I hope they continue to tell eachother and us that they love us everyday.
Right now, they both tell us that they will live with us forever but I know they won’t or at least they better not – LOL. But while they are still here, under my care, I will try my best to ensure they are happy, healthy safe and make some great memories that they will carry with them forever. I will try to mold them into the adults that I pray they become and I will kiss them and tell them I love them for as long as they let me. For all those out there with kids, enjoy them now for one day they will be too old to sit on your lap or want to cuddle in bed with you.
Happy Mothers Day! |
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