Well, as promised, here is my blog about my sister in law and their dysfunctional family.

She is around 35 years of age and married to my hubby’s brother.  They have 5, that’s right 5 children and this point will come into play in a little bit.  They were married about 11 years ago, with baby in belly already.  They moved into a house that my in laws owned since they really didn’t have 2 dimes to rub together.  They have lived their ever since (free of charge, I may add).  She proceeded to have 3 more children within about a 5 year span.  This fact made it impossible for her to work.  To many kids to pay daycare when the only real job she could get was at the local grocery store(not that there is anything wrong with that, please don’t send me hatemail).  Tom and I got married when her youngest was about 18 months.  She hated the fact that I worked and that we were making it on our own.  She basically had to live my my father in laws rules since he takes care of ALL of their bills and they live in his house.  Just imagine this freedom.  A home – free, vehicles – free, bills – paid.  Would you have anything to complain about?  Of course not, but she complains, all the time.  When I had Ella and she realized that the attention of the family had shifted to us, she went and got pregnant AGAIN.  She had a child exactly 10 months after Ella was born.  So she still could not work.  She complains that no one helps her with all of those kids.  Well, honey, I didn’t have them – YOU did.  She complains that she has to drive used mini vans when Tom and I drive luxury vehicles.  They live in a house that is probably half the size of ours if not smaller.  The way I see it, none of this is my problem.  Tom and I worked and continue to work for what we have.  There was no free ride for us, (it was offered but no way in hell was I living that way).  They are grown adults  in their 30s and they wonder why they can’t get a $5000 loan.  Well, you don’t own a thing, you have NO credit rating, can’t even get a credit card.  She complains that my in laws won’t buy them a brand new vehicle or that they won’t sign over the house to them.  Why should they.  She calls it her house when she does something to it but when it needs fixing, she tells them to pay for it because it is their house.  The next thing I am going to say is going to sound so mean and hateful but I swear I am not that kind of a person but she is a terrible mother who does not deserve the children she has been blessed with.  She has 5 kids ranging from the ages of 11 to 4 and I don’t think I have ever seen her actually physically play with any one of those kids.  Last year, she went out and got a part time job but HAD to quit after 6 months because she couldn’t handle the stress.  WHAT stress!!!!  She has sworn in front of and actually to her children.  She tells her 3 oldest to get lost and go find some friends in the neighborhood!  Could you imagine saying that to one of your children?  She has told her daughter that she is a “f%$*ing bitch”.  I have actually heard her say that.  She has told her 7 year daughter that she is FAT and she’ll never find a man that way.  She sends this daughter to school with makeup on everyday.  I don’t mean lipgloss, I mean full faced makeup!

She has let her children play in the backyard by themselves since they were all 2 years old.  She had my inlaws put up a fence so that they couldn’t take off, but they find a way out.  I have pulled up to find the 4 year old outside in the front of our BUSY street playing alone with no one watching!!!!!  She asks why I won’t send my kids over to play with hers and I have told her the truth  - that she doesn’t watch them and when something bad does happen, it will be to my child on the one occasion that I let them stay there.

She drinks  and is starting to drink all the time.  I think she hates being a mother, she treats those children likes slaves.  Last week, we were over there and she had her 9 year old son open up a bottle of wine for her and pour her a glass.  I made a comment like, “wow, I didn’t realize that we were supposed to teach our kids that trick?” She just laughed it off.  She tells me that I have everything and she has nothing.  I think she hates my daughter and she is making her daughters hate Ella.  They are so mean to her.  She sends them to school in old track pants and stained shirts and Ella always is dressed nicely.  They hate her for this.  What else do they do with their money.  They should be rolling in it!  Buy your kids some damn clothes!!!!1111

Her daughters pick on Ella, and she gets so upset that she doesn’t want to go over there (Thank GOD for small miracles.)  It isn’t her fault that she is dressed nicer or that she is a very pretty little girl and her daughters look like actual trash.  I hate to say that about my nieces and I must sound like pure evil but these little girls exude evil.  They are liars already, at such a young age, and bullies.  She blames that on having to deal with their brothers.  They had to be tough.  I really believe that she couldn’t care less what happened to those kids.  I feel bad for them in a way but when they start to misbehave, it is hard to find sympathy.  I know that it is not their fault.  They have never known discipline.  She could not be bothered.  The youngest (4) shoves my son around, steals and breaks his toys and calls him names.  This child is 4 years old and he is a rude adult in my opinion.  He needs some good old fashion discipline but she just says, that after 5 kids, she doesn’t have the energy.  She never did have it.  Oh, I think I had better stop, because I am getting so angry.  I think I will need to switch gears for my next post, because this is just reminding me how demented my family can be.